Mix-ups, Mayhem, and a Gay Wedding


A long time friend of the boozetube got married earlier, and my cynical heart grew three sizes today. But it’s been about four hours and the swelling has gone down, so I’ll probably live through it.

Getting ready for a wedding is tough (and I was only adjacent to it), if you don’t believe me, ask Ashley from Top Chef last week. She was suuuuuper pissed about having to prepare food for a bachelor party, since civil marriage isn’t available to all in the US, and she, along with several other contestants, is gay.

Tom Colicchio commented: This week, our chefs cooked for joint bachelor/bachelorette parties, and Ashley spoke articulately about her dismay and discomfort cooking to celebrate an upcoming wedding when gay people are still denied the right to wed throughout most of the world. I’m going to go out on a limb and say a few words about same-sex marriage: First of all, part of the problem with the issue is that it is framed by opponents as a discussion of whether gay people should get special rights. This is specious – yes, special legislation or court decisions grant them the right to wed in a particular state, however this is done to ensure that they share equal protection under the law by finally being able to avail themselves of the same rights as everyone else. They are not seeking special treatment, just equitable treatment. […] The institution of marriage should be available to all. The idea that you can have a life-long partner and not make decisions for them in a hospital, not share in insurance benefits, not automatically have parental rights unless you are the birth parent, is just flat-out wrong.

(h/t Shakesville)

So you know, yay Tom Colicchio!!

I have mixed feelings about Ashley’s pissed off-ness on the show, however. I feel like weddings make up an ENORMOUS part of the fancy food consumption market, and I feel like she probably should have made her peace with having to cook for weddings beforehand, so it seemed a little out of nowhere for her storm out of the house and expect the other chefs to share her upsetness and like, read her mind to know why she was annoyed.

On the other hand, a) editing exists, 2) she’s probably not a caterer, and vii) it was only less than a year ago that Prop. 8 and loads of other anti-gay legislation was passed so the annoyance is still, in some ways, fresh. Hmm. I think I talked myself out of being annoyed by it.

Carry on Ashley, not like you were waiting on my permission.


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